Daughter’s NUS Graduation Ceremony on 8Jul2017

flower arrangement wife made 

today’s my youngest daughter’s graduation ceremony on 8.7.2017. ^^

it was scheduled for 8pm.

wife made a beautiful bouquet, using pink roses & baby ‘s breath (apparently carnation family?). i think better than many you can buy outside.

looked easy when she made it. it’s like her first time, trial & error, but i must say came out really nicely, the results! clap! clap!

daughter’s NUS graduation 

i wear the light grey suit i bought for £99 at TKMax near covent gardens, with a £9 tax refund. this a place my son pulled me along & helped me buy & it came out very well & i wore it to his graduation ceremony 4 days back.

after dropping my wife at the entrance lobby, i was directed to carpark 3. however after entering carpark there was an attendant who asked for some yellow & other colour labels which i didn’t have. anyway the suit must have worked, so he let me passed & parked, and i walked to the atrium hall, met with daughter & wife, took some photos, then proceeded to the auditorium.

& we were seated on the front ie first row! quite fine with me, no questions asked. haha! my dental surgeon who did my implant, was seated directly behind me….

daughter’s NUS graduation 

good for my phototaking…

daughter’s NUS graduation

after the 2 hr seating, we met daughter at the entrance atrium & the graduating class took some photos together.

c.h.e.f andy

A Wedding on 13May2017

good friend’s son’s wedding @ Church of Our Lady of Perpetual Succour

one of the first “event” after returning from our immensely fun & memorable holiday in london & wales (for me 27apr to 12may2017 arriving evening of 12may) was a good friend’s son’s wedding on 13.5.2017.

it was held at the Church of Our Lady of Perpetual Succour. 12 of us RI friends attended.

we had a reception after the church ceremony & took many photos with the happy & proud parents & also with the wedding couple.

afterwards 8 of us went to killiney kopitiam siglap to have a cuppa. another friend staying nearby who was unable to go for the wedding during to prior commitments joined us for coffee.

this my close RI friend. we have been meeting quite regularly for the last few years, after a small group of us started to meet up with the 2010 world cup viewing.

old friends are always fast to get together even after many years of not being in contact. still, spending more time together, sharing & doing things together do make a difference. and among this group of close RI friends, we have been doing that more regularly the last few years.

this friend in particular has been to many of my home dinners. usually/always, he makes an effort to come earlier & chit chat a bit. we also helped out at newgate learning hub bread of life (BOL) saturday community breakfast last year in 2016 with 2 other RI friends.

i cooked total of 14times for BOL breakfast dish, the last on 8.10.2016.^^ the program ceased last year, for time being.

we now also do an almost monthly birthday get-together among this group of friends.

and i had a very enjoyable birthday dinner & tete a tete with this friend recently at mikuni on 27.3.2017. ^^

it’s always a good feeling to see the young ones starting out in life, seeking & finding what they want, and the union & happiness that are theirs for a lifetime.

c.h.e.f andy

 

 

 

A Walk in the Park – Pleasant Morning Walk at MacRitchie Reservoir on Christmas Day 25Dec2016

walk at macritchie

walk at macritchie

went with wife for a nice morning walk at macritchie reservoir on christmas day, 25.12.2016. ^^

walk at macritchie

walk at macritchie

have not walked here for a while.

walk at macritchie

walk at macritchie

for a period, we did some runs at prunus trail/petai trail board walks at the other side. that also was quite many years back, like >5yrs.

walk at macritchie

walk at macritchie

walk at macritchie

walk at macritchie

walk at macritchie

walk at macritchie

this time we walk the chemperai trail board walk.

in the RI school days in the early 1970s, used to rum along the lornie trail & chemperai trail (before chemperai has the board walk).

walk at macritchie - along the board walk

walk at macritchie – along the board walk

not many folks. very tranquil & mind calming.

walk at macritchie - along the board walk

walk at macritchie – along the board walk

nice ambience.

walk at macritchie

walk at macritchie

soon we walked back to the carpark.

4.8km chemperai trail board walk in 1 hr 18mins

4.8km chemperai trail board walk in 1 hr 18mins

we did average pace. 4.8km chemperai trail board walk took 1 hr 18mins.

a relaxing, fun christmas day morning at macritchie reservoir.

c.h.e.f andy

Happiness is a Choice = Treasure, Appreciate, Enjoy what You have!

happiness

happiness

friend of mine has been sending me meaningful messages, must have included me in his whatsapp broadcast. ^^

i made a quick chinese translation-

幸福不是结果,是选择
没有任何事物能让你幸福,除非你自己选择幸福
没有任何人能给你幸福,除非你自己决定要幸福
幸福不会从外界走来,只有从你内心发出

how very true!!

has been what I believe all the time💪😀
just that doing it is quite another thing all together😂

in the same expansive, all-encompassing mood of treasuring, appreciating & enjoying what we have, he also sent a video 麻烦,which i like a lot.

it says something like-

when you children are not inconveniencing you any more, maybe they are grown up & have gone far away

when your parents are not inconveniencing you any more, maybe they are no longer around..

when your spouse is not inconveniencing you any more, maybe they are “inconveniencing” someone else

when friends are not inconveniencing you any more, maybe there is distance already..

our lives are intertwined because of we are concerned for, care & do things for one another. in embracing inconvenience we share & achieve our goals together. in working on our goals toegther we deal with the inconvenience.

in being inconvenienced by & inconveniencing others, we deepen our relationship, feelings & empathy for each other, and realize our being. this is life!

so we treasure those by our side inconveniencing us, and thank those we have inconvenienced.

part of my resolution for 2017!

c.h.e.f andy

A Trump President

seafood risotto modelled after monterosso miky

seafood risotto modelled after monterosso miky

my wish totally dashed!

I am 200% against trump & all he represents then now i think always can’t see him changing

But can’t have it both ways…democracy means accepting majority views even if you disagree

though I accept the results

My view is he is exactly the small vile hateful ignorant wicked vindictive 5yr old that the media sees him

Hoping that i am wrong

it’s what American voters want however much I disagree with them

My 3 Wishes for America & for the World

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My 3 wishes for America & for the world (on the eve of America’s presidential election) –

  • clinton wins
  • clinton wins landslide
  • democrats win senate

that-

  • hope will triumph over fear
  • unity over divisiveness
  • optimism over darkness

like michelle obama said –

when others go low we go high

that America will vote against fascism, hate, vileness, wickedness, absence of basic decency, darkness

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/video/2016/nov/06/i-just-wanted-to-show-a-sign-protester-relives-trump-fans-attack-at-nevada-rally-video

that light will stand up against darkness, against messengers of hate, negativity, wickedness.

A Nation Bids Teary Farewell To Mr Lee Kuan Yew on 29Mar2015

farewell LKY

always Singapore first

i am truly glad that i went to parliament house with a good friend in the wee hours of 26.3.2015 to pay respects to Mr Lee Kuan Yew.

i am very proud to be a singaporean, to witness & be part of the spontaneous outpouring of grief & gratitude for such a great man who devoted his entire life to singapore, to us.

i am very happy that i teared & wept many times over the week of mourning like many singaporeans who also found love & gratitude in their hearts & poured out their feelings unreservedly.

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i am inspired, comforted & felt bonded with the exemplary, caring & earnest from the heart behaviour of singaporeans united in grief, gratitude & respect for Mr Lee, captured so well by yvonne ng, an ordinary singaporean (only with Facebook access) –

(quote) Mostly, we are impressed beyond words, by our fellow countrymen who came and bond together, and the unspoken heroes who provided drinks, cakes, bread, flowers and more along the queues. We are amazed by the quiet queues that just kept forming, and the quiet resilience displayed through a simple action like this. We are impressed by the seemingly seamless arrangements made by the authorities, and the amount of work and sleepless nights for those on duty. 

We are touched by the love, care, respect and the wonderful “Singapore Spirit” displayed by Singaporeans, in this difficult time. A spirit we never really knew existed until now.

We did not practise this, nor did we choreograph this. It is just so simply…Singapore.

We have always been searching and asking about the Singaporean identity. This is it. 

Fifty years ago, a man brought us together as one united people. 
Fifty years later, he brought us together again, and we stand united as a nation.

This is Singapore. 
This is Home.
And I am so proud of being a part of it. (unquote)

as yvonne (who i do not know) famously described, this is the last contribution by Mr Lee to Singapore. even in death, he has united the whole nation & helped us unlock the deep feelings, purpose & resolve for the country.

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this morning, my wife, my daughter & i were at the clementi community tribute site & i managed to pay my last respects to Mr Lee Kuan Yew.

Rest in Peace Mr Lee. as PM Lee Hsien Loong said, you were the guiding light for the nation, and your values & ethos will continue to inspire us & be our guiding light.

c.h.e.f andy

Cherian George – Singapore please listen to him!

i said on my Facebook-

Cherian George…you are my new idol!

NTU don’t know what they missed that such an outstanding person as yourself could be denied tenure & have to find employment in HK..

PAP leaders should seriously listen to you!

such fairness, moderation, balance, intellectual honesty & calm & incisiveness!

all my friends, please listen to this guy…

agree with & learn from everything you said, in particular LKY’s incorruptibility & how Singapore is so lucky to have him!

i had expected a very professional analysis but with the usual fashionable western liberal emphasis on mr lee’s intolerance towards alternative views. after all  cherian george does have some very recent legitimate grievances with NTU denying tenure.

it is NTU’s & Singapore’s great loss that the man is now plying his trade in hong kong.

instead his depth & incisiveness demonstrated true intellectual honesty, moderation & balance in examining the issues and also genuine care for singapore’s future. it is a fair & balanced mind with respect for the truth (& equal respect for other human beings with difference of opinions) that is constantly considering, weighing alternative viewpoints & angles, & new facts & information.

cherian spoke as he believed. his was not some shallow piece beautifully crafted to appear to be balanced & fair in order to look good or to impress, which i see often these days circulated on the social media.

i liked his observation that mr lee was in fact more liberal & ahead of the curve than the present PAP leadership, that it is in fact the present leadership that is dogmatic clinging to past formulas of success rather than working from basic pragmatic principles of service & what’s good for singapore. in contrast, the founding fathers under the leadership of mr lee had been truly pragmatic, serving & delivering what was good & what worked for singapore & not constrained by dogma & ideology.

cherian’s humanity & generosity of heart really resonate with me. mr lee & his generation of leaders were pragmatic because they cared so much about the well being of the people of singapore.

c.h.e.f andy

 

Outpouring of Grief & Gratitude for Beloved Mr Lee Kuan Yew

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last night, i went with a good friend & started queueing for almost 2hrs from 2.35am to 4.30am to pay respects to our beloved first prime minister Mr Lee Kuan Yew.

i shared this on my Facebook-

Standing in queue at padang at 2.46am… about 2hr queue?

Really proud of my fellow Singaporeans standing in queue to pay respects. That so many understand gratitude & respect. .

Thank you Mr Lee Kuan Yew.

You cared so much for us. Did so much for us. devoted your entire life to Singapore.

It is so very sad that such a great & wonderful person like you is no more..

rest in peace SIR!

my feelings were no different with so many singaporeans from all walks of life who said that waiting in line for  whatever number of hours was the least they could do for Mr Lee who had given his entire life to singapore & made our lives immeasurably better!

my friend & i were really happy that we came to be part of this spontaneous outpouring of grief & gratitude for mr lee.

there were endless accolades from world leaders. i liked the tribute by henry kissinger especially.

both the new zealand parliament & australian parliament passed tribute motions & had many tribute speeches by leader of various parties.

singapore also had a special session of parliament with many moving tributes from minsters, PAP MPs, mr low thia khiang, leader of the opposition workers party, and NMPs. i was very moved that sylvia lim chairman of workers’ party (and like everyone else) were in tears.

genuine emotions are to be treasured. i never thought i would tear myself. but listening to the speeches & tributes, and what ordinary singaporeans said & the open display of emotions, i am very happy that i cried just like anyone else.

today i watched the rappler interview with cherian george, a singaporean writer and academic based in hong kong, to assess Lee Kuan Yew’s legacy and to take a peek at what’s ahead for singapore. he was just so good!

c.h.e.f andy

 

Tapao (Takeaway) Dinner @ Holland Village XO Fish Head Bee Hun Restaurant on 11Feb2015

fish belly soup 鱼肌汤

fish belly soup 鱼肌汤

went to watch “Still Alice” at orchard cineleisure with friends on 11.2.2015. 🙂

it’s a movie about early onset of alzeimer. it’s quite slow. but it was a meaningful movie. good actress julianne moore. & kristen stewart was pretty good too.

some of my friends felt the movie was not intense enough, too watered down. they made the same comment about “The Theory of Everything” on stephen hawkings.

for me though, both were ok. the director & scriptwriter had to pick the scenes that best communicated with the audience. perhaps some real live stresses, more intense discord among the characters, tempers flaring might carry the message better. maybe that will offer more tension among the characters & more acting challenges. but i also understand that some methods of portrayal use subtle conversations to convey deep emotions, distress, tension and being conflicted. (i must say that i did not feel any strong connection to alec baldwin feeling conflicted with wanting to go to washington instead of spending the final months with his alzeimer wife though he did stay with her, so in my view that was mediocre acting).

for me the few scenes like telling the husband “why are you not listening to me” when her facial expression seamlessly morphed from anxious sharing to indignation & frustration with the husband not listening to anguish, sorrow & despair needing comfort marked her out as a very good actress. so was the speech at the alzeimer interest group.

& the several scenes of tension with lydia (kristen stewart) showed very good (if subtle – i quite like this subtle approach rather than flaring of emotions though it really depends on the acting, scripting & portrayals) tension between a mother losing her mind & a daughter wanting to be independent & not emotionally blackmailed but loving & caring for the mother. she got across the emotions of tension & conflicted. 🙂

ok, so much for the movie.

the food at cineleisure B1 sucks. so we decided to tapao dinner before movie. a friend picked up the food from Holland Village XO Fish Head Bee Hun Restaurant 荷兰村XO鱼头米粉酒楼.

san loh hor fun生捞河粉

san loh hor fun三捞河粉

the san loh hor fun三捞河粉 was good, but i thought i had tapao better wok hae ones from there. still it was tasty, good fish slices & i love the chilli padi & pickled green chilli.

some tofu dish with prawns & shimeji

some tofu dish with prawns & shimeji

the tofu dish with prawns & shimeji was competent, a good dish.

chicken breast with liver & gizzard

chicken breast with liver & gizzard

the 白斩鸡 chicken rice chicken? pretty good. my friend got the healthy chicken breast. actually chicken breast is the real test of good cooking, so this was pretty good – tender, moist, sweet. didn’t think it was better than my own poached chicken 白斩鸡 nor my son’s lemon roast chicken though.

& confession – i still like drumstick better..haha!^^

fish belly soup 鱼肌汤

fish belly soup 鱼肌汤

i liked the fish belly soup 鱼肌汤 especially. it was xo preparation with good amount of xo (i guess). enjoyed the soup very much.

it was very substantial dinner at S$40 for 4pax (though we had someone who hardly ate), very decent considering food court prices these days. 🙂

c.h.e.f andy

冬至吃汤圆 (Eating Sesame Mochi Dumplings with Arrival of Winter) on Winter Solstice 22Dec14

冬至吃汤圆 (eating sesame kochi with arrival of winter)

冬至吃汤圆 (eating sesame mochi with arrival of winter)

some korean friends were sharing with me on email about eating 팥죽 (red bean soup) & 동지 (winter solstice) on 22.12.2014.

i later posted on Facebook-

yesterday was 冬至means arriving of winter.

did not pay attention when younger..always thought it was “tan joyk” 冬节 but a friend on wechat 微信 said they are the same thing – 1 is a day the other an event. maybe?

my china relatives eating 汤圆 & putting out a table, i guess to pray?

black sesame mochi 汤圆 – 2packets x 10 for S$2.95 only at giant

冬至吃汤圆 (eating sesame kochi with arrival of winter)

冬至吃汤圆 (eating sesame mochi with arrival of winter)

bought some from giant – 2 packets x10 for S$2.95.

i still like it now. ^^ 🙂

c.h.e.f andy

P.S. ok from wiki = http://zh.wikipedia.org/wiki/冬至

冬至,又稱「冬節」、「賀冬」,台灣又稱「入冬」….因为冬至并没有固定于特定一日,因此和清明一样,被称为“活节”。…never knew that was the meaning of <warh joyk>“活节”

one friend said-

It is “活节” based on Lunar calendar. It is always fixed on 22 Dec based on solar calendar.

another friend found this-

http://www.yourchineseastrology.com/holidays/winter-solstice-festival/

the debate or musings continue…^^

Cycling at East Coast Park on 19Nov2014

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our bikes

went cycling with wife at east coast park on 19.11.2014. 🙂

i bought my dahon mu n360 on 3.4.2014. it is a good bike & i quite enjoy riding it.

it was pouring in the morning the day before. fortunately it did not rain today. we started only at 9am, so it was a bit hot actually.

we took ECP exit 10A & parked at the first carpark nearest still road.

from there we cycled past east coast seafood centre, ski360degrees cable ski park, east coast lagoon food centre.

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& up to changi coast walk. we took some rest & water along the way & back, so the pace was rather slow. we cycled 22km in total time of 1hr 32mins.

this was a shorter ride than last time when we went all the way to changi village food centre (35km return) but quite disappointed with the makan there.

our bikes

our bikes

there were not so many people & bikers at this time, very smooth, peaceful & relaxing ride.

after cycling we proceeded to relish serangoon gardens to use up an expiring groupon. however, relish was closed for a private function so we went to serangoon gardens food centre & took the totally forgettable seng kee (胜记) bakchormee.

c.h.e.f andy

Bought My First Foldable Bike = Dahon mu n360 with nuVinci CVT Hub Gears on 3.4.2014

dahon mu n360 with cvt (continuous variable transmission) hub gear

dahon mu n360 with cvt (continuous variable transmission) hub gear

happy to report that the dahon has served me well so far. 🙂

bought a foldie (foldable bike) for my wife for her birthday present in 2012. she went cycling with friends very occasionally as i was not much into cycling.

we were going to amsterdam in apr2014 with our youngest daughter and wife planned to cycle there (see cycling the waterland route in amsterdam).

so i finally stirred myself into action & bought a dahon mu n360 (aluminium frame, fork & handle, some alloy seat post) on 3.4.2014, 1.5 weeks before our amsterdam trip.

i was very happy with the bike. 🙂

internal hub & nuVinci cvt (continuous variable transmission) = seamless gear change

11-speed internal hub gears

& nuVinci cvt (continuous variable transmission) = seamless gear change

& nuVinci cvt (continuous variable transmission) = seamless gear change

dahon has 70% of the entire world market.

mu is the patented curve frame series, and n360 is the latest 2013 bike with 11-speed internal hub & nuVinci cvt (continuous variable transmission) = seamless gear change

really good technology = http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4wNcok8KdNE

dahon mu n360 with cvt (continuous variable transmission) hub gear

dahon mu n360 with cvt (continuous variable transmission) hub gear

& the seat post is a bicycle pump! omt! (a friend told me oh my 天! instead of oh my god! for free-thinkers). 🙂

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only worry was bike was a parallel import by internet marketer, not by dahon distributor speed matrix, so worry about service & warranty.

these days though the internet is incredible & the guy was able to show me by scratching a holographic label & inputing the code into dahon official website to verify it was authentic & got a welcome message.

i entered the code again when i got home, and the website returned a message that provided the time the code was first entered for verification by the seller, and then by me.

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well, that made me the proud owner of a middle-of-the-range not too expensive foldable bike, so i can go cycling with my wife. 🙂

c.h.e.f andy

烛光 诗/摄影 郭永秀 candle light – poem/photography by yong siu

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shared my brother yong siu’s beautiful poem on Facebook today.

decided to post it also. 🙂

…with my translation –

烛光 诗/摄影 郭永秀

candle light poem/photography by quek yong siu

当光明放弃了一切

when light deserted all

无形的力量倏地消失无踪

its (unseen) formless power abruptly disappeared without trace

世界如一具瘫痪的躯体

the world is like a paralysed shell

在惊愕与慌乱之中

in the midst of consternation & confusion

你是唯一的依傍

you are the only refuge

停电的刹那,你的出现

at the moment of blackout, your appearance

是荒岛上遥远的渴望

is the distant yearning on a desert island

若水平线上哗然升起的

like breaking onto the horizon of a

桅杆,是众人心中一轮

ship’s mast, and within the hearts of all

朝阳,疾升而上

a morning sun, rising

是乌云脱困的 满月

a full moon, breaking out from the dark clouds

当黑暗刺伤所有的

with darkness hurting our

眼睛,你以闪烁颤抖的剑锋

eyes, your flickering light like a vibrating sword

轻柔的彩笔,描绘出

like a gentle colour pencil, sketches out

众人眸中的影象

the images in our eyes

愉快的自焚

the pleasure of self immolation

如勇者牺牲自我的

the self sacrifice of the courageous

壮烈,如智者之洞悉

heroic, like the wise with insight

天机,如生命之火 

into heavenly wisdom, like the fire of life

不因最终的熄灭

that will not allow a dying flame

而停止 燃烧

to stop burning

某年某日,某人

some day, someone

在你晃动的手势中低头闭目

bowing her head & closing her eyes upon your spirited flicker

以虔敬的心,喃喃自语

with a reverent heart, whispering a wish

对着一排微笑的眼睛

facing rows of smiling eyes

潮水般的祝福,沸腾的

offering a tidal of blessings, passionate

歌声和掌声

song & applause

感恩,并将你吹熄

& in thanksgiving, blows out the candle

千年之恋 Eternal Love

央吉玛 - 千年之恋

央吉玛 - 千年之恋

yesterday, in my post “A Moment in Heaven” on 央吉瑪’s new modern beauty image or 造形, i said “莲花开了 is actually far more meaningful (though i like 千年之恋 a lot more)”…

i revisited the lyrics of 千年之恋 & decided to translate that also, below. actually, both are talking about eternal love across time…

莲花开了 is more zen & tranquil, 千年之恋 is more intense & vivid. both are 以景寄情 i.e. using nature & sceneries (butterflies, flowers, wind, sand, tea in 千年之恋 and dreams, lotus, fragrance, music, song, cloud dispersing, crowd dispersing in 莲花开了) to evoke the imagery of time, change or absence of constant & enduring love.

i have to say  千年之恋 is actually far more beautiful & poetic. & of course i like the song & singing a lot more, and also 央吉瑪’s 造形, even though i am quite happy she had a pleasant transformation to a modern beauty image. still i like her 造形 in 千年之恋 more. 🙂

c.h.e.f andy

P.S. the lyrics below were taken from the song she sang at chinese idol 中国梦之声, and not the original lyrics & the song sang by 戴愛玲&信樂團 which is here

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the lyrics below (& my translation)

千年之恋

(Song Title : Love Across Countless Rebirth)

谁在悬崖沏一壶茶?

who is brewing a pot of tea on the cliff?

温热前世的牵挂

warming up my longing heart in the past life

而我在调整千年的时差

and i am recalibrating the time difference in a thousand years

爱恨全喝下

drinking up every memory of love & hate

岁月在岩石上敲打

time is beating on the rocks

我又留长了头发

my locks have become long again

耐心等待海岸线的变化

patiently waiting for the changing coastline with the passage of time

大雨就要下

the rain is coming

风。。。。狠狠的刮

wind…is fiercely scouring

谁。。在害怕?

who…is fearful?

蝴蝶依旧狂恋着花

the butterflies remain madly in love with the flowers

你卻错过我的年华

but you have failed to notice my passing years (passed me by)

错过我转世的臉頰

failed to recognise my reincarnated face & presence

和我的白发

and my white locks

蝴蝶依旧狂恋着花

the butterflies remain madly in love with the flowers

你卻错过我的变化

but you have failed to notice my transformation

错过我转世的脸頰

failed to recognise my reincarnated face & presence

你还爱我吗?

are you still in love with me?

啊。。。。

ah….

风。。。。狠狠的刮

wind…is fiercely scouring

谁。。在害怕?

who..is fearful?

海風一直眷戀著沙

the wind by the sea yearns longingly for the sand

你卻錯過我的年華

but you have failed to notice my passing years (passed me by)

錯過我轉世的臉頰

failed to recognise my reincarnated face and presence

和我的白髮

and my white locks

蝴蝶一直眷戀著花

the butterflies yearn longingly for the flowers

你卻错过我的变化

but you have failed to notice my transformation

错过我转世的臉頰

failed to recognise my reincarnated face and presence

你还爱我吗?

are you still in love with me?

我等你一句话

i am waiting for your word

啊。。。。。

ah…

A Moment in Heaven

found this video this morning. very surprised and thrilled!

so happy! 🙂

see also my update here.

they transformed her into a modern beauty! really not expecting that…

i guess compared with this modern beauty, i like her angelic presence in 千年之恋 even more…such incredible beauty…a moment in heaven..

more importantly, the voice is exactly the same…天籟之音…a voice descending from heaven, it can only be an angel..no other ways to describe it…

she seemed to have lost a lot of weight. she looked healthy & wonderful really, but thin! i hope she remains healthy, always! 🙂

her songs are mostly steeped in buddhist philosophy, she is clearly a very devout believer –

千年之恋  is eternal love across countless rebirths.

& 莲花开了 is  actually far more meaningful (though i like 千年之恋 a lot more) <<i revisited this & discussed my current views here>>. about 悲欢离合 (literally sorrow, joy, separation, coming together) &无常 (change OR the absence of constant)…

and such incredibly beautiful lyrics…

c.h.e.f andy

P.S. she sucks at the interview actually, but that made her real – so flawlessly flawed.

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the lyrics below (& my translation)

莲花开了
(song title=the lotus is blossoming)
情人丢了
the lover is missing
有人哭了
someone is crying
莲花开了
the lotus is blossoming
佛也笑了
buddha is smiling
为了今生与你相遇
so that i can rendezvous with you in this life
我在前世早留有余地
i have long laid plans in my past life
为何此生不与我相依
why are you still not by my side in this life?
天也无常 地也无常
nothing is constant in heaven, nothing is constant on earth
梦里传来你的琴声
the sound of your harp came drifting in my dreams
为我吟唱所有动情的歌
humming all the moving, emotive tunes 
琴声停止了
the music has stopped
泪水淹没你我眼眶
tears overflowing your eyes & mine
梦醒了 雨停了 云散了
the dream has awaken, the rain has stopped, the clouds have dispersed
梦里传来一首首歌
the songs came drifting in my dreams
世间所有悲欢离合的歌
songs of all the sorrow joy separation & coming together in this world
音乐停止了
the music has stopped
我还在不停的追寻
i am still endlessly seeking
梦醒了 曲终了 人散了
the dream has awaken, the song has ended, the crowd have dispersed
啊
ah...
为了今生与你相遇
so that i can rendezvous with you in this life
我在前世早留有余地
i have long laid plans in my past life
为何此生不与我相依
why are you still not by my side in this life?
天也无常 地也无常
nothing is constant in heaven, nothing is constant on earth
梦里传来一首首歌
the songs came drifting in my dreams
世间所有悲欢离合的歌
songs of all the sorrow joy separation & coming together in this world
音乐停止了
the music has stopped
我还在不停的找寻
i am still endlessly searching
梦醒了 曲终了 人散了
the dream has awaken, the song has ended, the crowd have dispersed
梦里飘来一朵莲花 
a lotus came floating in my dream 
追随你的芬芳忘记了忧伤 
letting me trace your fragrance & forget my sadness 
随你去追寻 
seeking in your company 
心不再迷失方向 
my heart is no longer lost 
梦醒了花开了我笑了 
the dream has awaken, the flower is blossoming, i am smiling 
啊 
ah...

Just Musings on Discerning, Judgmental, Empathy, Caregiving, Acceptance, Belong, Fairness

so many who love & care for robin williams are saddened & devastated by his apparent suicide. as his wife susan schneider said, “…the world lost one of its most beloved artists and beautiful human beings”.

i have mused, verbalised, spoken aloud in my posts under PERSPECTIVES for my own entertainment, freedom of expression (haha…yes..at least for myself, i need a forum to verbalise my own thoughts & feelings), and for continued health & sanity. lol. 🙂

i have talked about negative thoughts, negative emotions, negative energy in my blog posts – Grateful for What We Have, & Happy to Give & Receive.

DISCERNING & JUDGMENTAL

a person can be discerning w/o being judgemental? knowing but NOT judging?

NOT passing comments & NOT judging is NOT the same as NOT having a view, an opinion?

i don’t agree with you. i don’t think the same way as you. i don’t feel the same way as you. but i am not judging you. i am not saying you are wrong. and you have the right to think what you think feel what you feel even though i don’t, and don’t agree. 🙂

of course there are many situations where this doesn’t apply – like the guy is a murderer. 😦

EMPATHY

a person can be more than non judgmental  but even have empathy?

what about say in CAREGIVING for a person in distress?

i think you are wrong. i think your interpretations of the situation is wrong. i think you are mistaken, you misunderstood, you are messed up or even you are totally screwed up & have gone bonkers! BUT because you are a fellow human being, you are a friend or sometimes because i care for you & want the best for you & want you to be happy, i can empathise with you and show you my empathy & my concern & if i can, then make you happy – even if i think you are all & totally wrong & screwed up. 🙂

and of course, often any person who has a problem – unhappy, angry, distressed, depressed – is not totally wrong. maybe you disagree 10%, 50%, 90%.

& of course good counsellors & caregivers know that the first step about care & empathy is not demonstrated by emphasising on disagreements but by showing the person your support & concern & that you are there for him. the immediate need of a person in distress is never a discussion, deliberation, analysis of the subject matter, but just simply the need to be COMFORTED & to feel ACCEPTANCE. once comfort & relieve & acceptance are given, maybe the person is ready to discuss the subject matter?

i am NOT trained in caregiving, but those are my 2 cents worth anyway. haha. 🙂

ACCEPTANCE = HE IS LIKE THAT, BUT I LOVE HIM = BELONG

sometimes we meet people who to us (may not be to others) are kind of not our cup of tea. maybe we think they are nasty, loud, exasperating, ostentatious, egoistic, selfish, exploitative, in-the-face or one-upish, whatever. to us they maybe. yet often these people have their own group of close friends & people who love & treasure them & enjoy their company. basically everyone have their pluses & minuses, and if you are close to them, you see & treasure their pluses and ACCEPT their minuses. you are NOT undiscerning or uncritical of their faults and not just tolerant, but you ACCEPT them & love them with all their faults. 🙂

& i guess everyone need (most need anyway) ACCEPTANCE by people close to them. if people around them are always questioning them, critical, disagreeing & pointing out their faults, not nurturing and do not reassure them of their virtues, appreciate them for what they are, be there & shows solidarity in distress, then the person will feel he does not BELONG. those are also my views & value system on friendship, on parenting, on family.

FAIRNESS

One problem I can see with ACCEPTANCE is FAIRNESS.

there was a youtube video about capuchin monkeys & their reactions to unfair treatment. 🙂

so the monkey was perfectly fine with a piece of cucumber. but when a fellow monkey was given a grape (the preferred food of capuchin monkeys…haha), then the first monkey reacted “violently”. so it was NOT about the cucumber (or the intrinsic value of the reward or recognition) but about FAIRNESS.

so we accept a person. he is like that! he is my/our friend, even if he is nasty, loud, exasperating etc etc. and that is a good thing! 🙂 BUT if another person is NOT nasty, loud etc etc (he would have his other faults), is generous & accommodative for the most time, and he may one day or for one instance decide not to be accommodative, then people are not used to it. then he does not get ACCEPTANCE. the UNFAIRNESS arises because someone who is regularly nasty, loud, exasperating is ACCEPTED because “he is like that”, but the other person who is usually accommodative is NOT permitted to be “he is like that!”.

well, i guess life is never fair. 🙂

c.h.e.f andy

Xing Ji (興记) Bakchormee at Fengshan Food Centre on 13Jul2014

xing ji (興记) bakchormee

xing ji (興记) bakchormee

a lot of late nights & day zombies lately. 🙂

went to a friend’s place to watch the germany – argentina world cup finals at 3am 14.7.2014. we arranged to meet at 10.30pm for supper then back to friend’s place to watch a movie. that would bring us nicely to 3am to watch the WC finals. 🙂

i supported argentina though it was an uphill task. both sides had good chances, however argentina lacked good finishers. messi was heavily marked & mostly in midfield with several lightning dashes down the right flanks but there was no centre forwards to receive his crosses & pullbacks – angela di maria was injured, aquero was not game fit & missing his speed & touches, gondola higuain missed a sitter & badly fluffed a superb lavazzi’s cross with an offside goal! & manual neuer the german goalkeeper smothered palacio’s once chance. anyway, in the end i guess the best team won! 🙂

before the WC finals we watched zero dark thirty, a multiple award winning film (oscar, bafta, golden globe etc) about the hit on osama bin laden. it was a good movie but for me it was not among the best & it was also hard to follow (need to read up first to understand the movie).

for supper, we had the famous xingji soupy bakchormee, see video here.

we also had the ngoh hiang & orh luah.

xing ji (興记) bakchormee fengshan food centre

xing ji (興记) bakchormee fengshan food centre

xing ji (興记) bakchormee

xing ji (興记) bakchormee

ngoh hian

ngoh hiang

ngoh hian

ngoh hiang

orh luah

orh luah

orh luah

orh luah

xingji soupy bakchormee was every bit as good as featured in the video. it was very different from the mushroom sauce tai wah bakchormee, very shiok songfa bakchormee, and the teochew meerpok tar at jalan tua kong lau lim bedok simpang, & jalan tua kong 6th avenue meepok tar etc.

the ngoh hiang was a disappointment! 😦 sausage was poor & ngoh hiang not tasty.

likewise the orh luah was poor, much worse than the orh luah at east coast lagoon food village.

c.h.e.f andy

Good Zi Char Dinner @ Keng Eng Kee (KEK) Restaurant & Teochew Opera on 9Jun2014

S$10 claypot liver

S$10 claypot liver

i had wanted to try keng eng kee (KEK) the last time the few of us were doing a hawker & zi char tour but had never gotten to it.

was watching a teochew classical tunes (operatic) concert at singapore concert hall at 7.30pm by ngee ann cultural centre, singapore teochew federation & nan hua opera (南华儒剧社) – program here, so decided to have early dinner at KEK on 9.6.2014.

i must say i really enjoyed the teochew opera singing. used to listen to them a lot when very young, so even though had not listen to some for decades, the songs were still familiar. 🙂

the singing was good & the ones by 孙小华 (芦林会) & 陈纬恬 (刘明珠) was outstanding, extremely emotive, moving & captivating. 陈纬恬, singaporean, is just 11 years old. she performed 小蝴蝶 in (莫愁女) in shantou, china when she was 5! this young girl is set to be a super star.

S$10 claypot liver

S$10 claypot liver

we were there at 5pm on a monday. the indoor aircon seating was fully booked, & 1/2 of the outdoor seating at the coffeeshop was also reserved with the names on the tables.

famous dishes at KEK includes claypot liver, moonlight nor fun, mingzhu rolls (明珠卷) & salted egg crab etc.

#1 i do like liver but am not particularly fond of claypot liver which is like a liver overkill. we ordered it anyhow & it turned out to be really good! the liver was not overcooked, had great wine flavours & very sweet & just the right texture. an excellent dish! 🙂

S$25 nonya song fish head

S$25 nonya song fish head

#2 we were deciding between black beans bitter gourd with sliced snakehead (生鱼) or a song fish head(松鱼头). the server recommended the fish head nonya style. it was very good, the sauce was the same as the very nice fish head at forture seafood but dryer & less curry. i would think that angkoli (red snapper) which forture used would go better than 松鱼 for this dish.

cuttlefish kang kong

cuttlefish kang kong

#3 cuttle fish kang kong was competent & tasty, the sweet sauce though was kind of overpowering.

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明珠卷 mingzhu roll

#4 the 明珠卷 mingzhu roll (6 pieces) was good too. however we did not really need this dish. the other 4 dishes were already too big for 3pax, so we tapao (take out) remaining 3 pieces.

S$5 moonlight hor fun

S$5 moonlight hor fun

#5 the moonlight dry nor fun was a good dish. it was a strange concoction combining char kuay teow with hor fun(河粉), and came with chinese sausage & also prawns & squid with thick hor fun. it was not really my favourite. i would prefer the usual hor fun or san lor hor fun (生捞河粉) to this.

keng eng kee alexandra village

keng eng kee alexandra village

S$25 nonya song fish head

S$25 nonya song fish head

there was no service or get. the bill came up to S$60 for 5 dishes for 3pax. the food would easily have served 4pax. i would rate KEK on par with kok sen & much better than two chefs. i would expect the song fish head(松鱼头) at 香港街珍记 (Hong Kong Street Chun Kee) to be better but then the menu range at the latter is small.

this definitely a eating place that i will come back again! 🙂

c.h.e.f andy

Hawker Food @ East Coast Lagoon Food Village then Music & Roland Garros Finals on 8.6.2014

orh luah (oyster egg)

orh luah (oyster egg)

went to a good friend’s house to watch roland garros finals between nadal & djokovic on 8.6.2014.

3 of us started with a leisurely stroll via the underpass to the recently renovated east coast lagoon food village for dinner.

we enjoyed nice music after dinner at my friend’s place with his amazing sound system & acoustics. mostly we listened to david foster, his guest artists & wonderful songs –

  1. katherine mcphee (america idol 2005 runners-up) who also sang “the prayer” with andrea bocelli;
  2. michael buble who sang the very nice song “home” co-written with his wife amy foster with country singer blake shelton,
  3. jackie evancho (america got talent 2010 runners-up), &
  4. lucia micarelli’s simply incredible moving mesmerising lingering violin instrumental with chris botti “emmanuel”.

another friend joined to watch nadal vs djokovic roland garros finals at 9pm. we are all nadal supporters though my friend’s son who joined us supports djokovic. we were not hopeful this time as nadal had lost 3 masters to almegro, ferrer & djokovic in the clay court build-up before roland garros. djokovic is deservedly on the rise & is nadal’s nemesis & tormentor as nadal had been to federer. nadal’s progress into the second week had also been tentative & less convincing than djokovic’s, and my friends & i were not convinced despite his thrashing andy murray in the semi-final.

as it turned out, nadal won again! & for the 9th times (& 5 times in a row, consecutively), something no one has ever done before. djokovic started perfectly. nadal was playing well but djokovic was 1 step ahead in everything, returning every ball & his backhand was simply lethal. nothing nadal did could hurt djokovic. nadal was simply being owned & prospects looked bleak, insurmountable. we were not hopeful. djokovic’s play however dropped towards the end of the second set which nadal won 7-5 & that proved to be the turning point. djokovic looked winded & regurgitated (like vomitting) in the 3rd set which nadal again won. in the fourth though nadal looked worrying, bending over & clutching his wrist & after 1 shot was bending over with back pain (he lost to wawrinka at the australia open finals, playing through his back pain).

there was a very unfortunate, most regrettable incident. at match point, as djokovic threw up the ball for the second serve, someone in the audience intentionally shouted & as a result djokovic double-faulted on match point. (i think with the extensive camera surveillance, the culprit(s) should be hauled up & banned for all future games). djokovic was extremely bitter (as can only be expected with the sweat & blood, hardwork & complete dedication), and applauded the audience in his usual cynical, wry, sacarstic manner (my friend did not like this trait of his but i am ok with djokovic, it is just his make-up & he is a really good sporting guy). djokovic was very gracious through the prize presentation ceremony. i actually quite like him.

a friend whatsapped me the headlines afterwards – “nadal in cloud 9”. yes indeed, nadal had resume 9 to 5 service (normal service). he won a record 9 times roland garros & 5 times consecutively, only interrupted by his second round exit by robert soderling in 2009, where he suffered tendonitis in both knees & laid-off for 2 months.

beef soup noodles

beef soup noodles

for dinner, we ordered a S$5 beef soup kuay teow mee each & a S$8 orh luah to share. 🙂

never taken this style of beef kuayteow mee before. only had the hainanese style starchy thick beehoon (which i don’t quite like), the vietnamese pho & thai thin kuay teow (i like the beef noodles at thai noodle house, even more so in bangkok siam centre or street etc, a lot more than the vietnamese), and nothing like the hong kong beef noodles, my favourite but cannot quite find in singapore, maybe noodles restaurant’s version comes just a bit close. still!

this supposedly famous leng kee beef noodles though was really nondescript. very average.

the orh luah had a long queue. it was pretty good but not special. & since i started trying out orh luah last week, i think it was no better than my own crispy orh luah & the wetter starchy version which i had not posted yet.

i also brought my tofu cheese cake & also some “sous vide” char siew, which we enjoyed before & during the match.

a most enjoyable evening!

c.h.e.f andy