给自己的一封信

如果
给50年前的我
写一封信
我会说些什么呢？

1975年
祖母隔年便仙逝
父母才刚过六旬，不是很老
却没能再活过5年

哥姐
已然为人师表
灵魂导师，循循善诱
造就桃李满天下

正逢
新加坡经济暴涨、突飞猛进
十年的快速增长
社会面貌、格局在更新

我会说
多陪伴祖母、父母
哪怕没啥交流
就算只是无语相伴
也是彼此欢颜、愉悦
一生珍藏的记忆

我会说
多关心哥姐
多深入了解、交流
日常生活中多熟悉
彼此起居、日需、爱恶
亲情无价，没有替代

我会说
做人最重要有底气
才能有原则，不为人动摇、左右
底气来自内涵
先要自强不息，奋发图强
有学识、有技能、有见地

每个人
际遇不同
人生很多时候，也看缘分
无论命运
丢给你啥样骰子
好活歹活还是自己说了算

人生嘛
没有再来一次，却可以
感恩从今天起，能
好好活够往后的每一天
好好落实要给自己
50年前说的话

c.h.e.f andy

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published on 12.2.2025

see my English translation 👇

给自己的一封信 A Letter to Myself

If
I were to write a letter
to myself 50 years ago
what would I say?

1975
my grandmother passed away the following year
my parents had just turned sixty, though not very old yet
they did not live past another five years

my older brother and sister
had already become role models—
spiritual guides, gently leading the way
nurturing countless disciples across the land

it was also the time
when Singapore’s economy was booming and leaping forward
a decade of rapid growth
the face, vision and mindset of society already in a major transformation

I would say:
spend more time with grandmother, mom and dad
even if there isn’t much to say
even if it’s just silent companionship
it will still bring mutual smiles and joy—
a memory to cherish for a lifetime

I would say:
care more about brother and sister
take time to truly understand and communicate with them
familiarize with each other’s daily routines, needs, likes, and dislikes
familiar love is priceless and irreplaceable

I would say:
the most important thing in life is to have inner strength
so you can stand by your principles without being swayed by others
that strength comes from within—
first, strive ceaselessly for self-improvement and success
be knowledgeable, skilled, and insightful

everyone’s
circumstances differ in life
so much depends on fate
no matter what kind of dice
destiny rolls for you
whether the outcome is good or bad ultimately you decide how to live it

after all
life comes only once, yet you can start by being grateful from today—
live each day to its fullest
and truly put into practice
the words i want to tell myself
50 years ago